Tuesday, 1 November 2016

All the reasons we cried today (yes that means me too)


Life with kids is never short of interesting moments... this day was just harder than most. Plenty of 'laughing' moments but plenty of palm-to-forehead moments to follow....there is a reason they are made cute!

- His toast was crunchy

- He couldn't see the melted butter
- All the red blocks where used in his tower and he wanted more
- I smiled at him
- He ate the last banana
- He wanted water
- He finished his water
- I gave him more water
- I said we needed to walk the dog
- He wanted a cuddle
- He didn't want a cuddle
- He didn't want to go out (we where never going out)
- He loves his tractor
- The tractor broke
- I cried
- He didn't want to cuddle me better
- The tv show ended..
- Put it on again...
- He didn't want to watch anymore tv
- I cried again
- He wanted to watch tv
- I didn't make dinner quick enough
- He wanted a hotter bath
- It was too hot
- He didn't want a book
- I didn't read him a book
- He wanted a cuddle and a kiss
- I cried

Good day hey...?

C x

Friday, 28 October 2016

Confessions of a Nanny (the questions I'm always asked)



I am a nanny, as you all know by now. I am not a mum but I am just like one. Yes I get full nights sleep (sometimes), that is why I am important, I am the fully functioning day time mummy. The one who is on all day so that mum can be on all night. I know which I would prefer, sorry mums. I find myself too often having to defend my job, whether it is hard work, real work or just play. Stay at home mums sadly have the same issue as me, it isn't work, it is staying at home... if being a nanny is officially a job how is being a stay at home mum not...?

As a nanny I dont just watch children, I am a mother of another kind, one that didn't give birth to a child, who had no claim to them in any way but loves them all the same. No I am not a mother but I am more than a child minder. I may leave the house empty handed (unless you are a live in nanny) and get to 'give them back at the end of the day' but only in a physical sense. I worry about them when I am not there, I miss them when I don't see them, I think of new activities, doctors appointments, birthday parties, presents, hair cuts, school you name it... all the time. Just because I walk out the door and get to recuperate it doesn't mean I forget what I am, the role I play and the little people I am assisting to raise.


The realities of being a nanny or to that point a mum....

I have not and never will sit on a baby, nor do I just watch children all day.

I do not sit and drink coffee and chat away my days

I do not play endlessly with happy smiling children

I live 2 lives, that of someone else and then my own. For a job I live someone else's life and then at the end of the day still have mine to attend to. I repeat the same things for myself as I have just done all day.

I do not sleep in...

I do not get a free ride, I am a live in nanny but I pay my way

I am trained to do this job, I didn't just fall upon it

I am part of the reason children are sent to school with manners, knowledge, ability to learn and respect

I get holidays like everyone else does, and I also get weekends as that is the job I chose

No I will not share with you all the details of the family I work for

Yes me and these children love each other

Yes they are comfortable with me... I am with them 12 hours a day 5 days a week

No I won't do this job forever

Yes I will probably have children

No I am not turned off

Yes I love what I do

Yes I do love children....

Yes I am good with children

Out of sight out of mind is a real thing, sorry mums but your angels do forget you for the short time you are gone (only to the effect of being distracted)

One day I was talking to my boss about what people say to me about being a nanny. Comments from on lookers or people who ask what I do, or friends who have 1 child and automatically see me as the help and not a "mother of sorts". He turned to me and said; "If only they saw what you do, you are a mummy!"

That one line has cured all feelings of discomfort or appreciation in what I do, someone out there believes that the job I do it just as important.

So to all my nanny followers and peers this is for you. Something to relate to and give you a chance for the confirming nod and grin as you read. For all of our other viewers I hope that answers all the questions you have.

Please share your stories, nanny confessions or comments with us. We love hearing them all.

Friday, 16 September 2016

Safety First for In-Home Hiring (Some things you may not know or have forgotten)



Some alarming news came to my attention in the past week which sparked this post. A babysitter was not who they said they were and two little babies unfortunately were at the forefront of this (thankfully, they are ok). As we are starting our very own way for parents, families, nannies, babysitters, tutors and more to connect I feel it only necessary that we address the issue at hand. 

Below are some helpful lists to help those on the ‘search’ - and we will have plenty more helpful tips coming to the blog, so stay tuned! 

(The website is getting closer everyday! If you haven’t yet signed up to be notified when we officially launch, you can do so here. We will have so many more handy resources and checklists there when we are done!) 

We provide you with a few helpful resources for all the information you didn't know. You are not expected to know what to do when hiring someone for your home or family however it is your responsibly to ensure you do the proper research before making any advancements.

Whether you are hiring someone to work as a nanny or a cleaner, you need to carry out the relevant checks. If you were going through an agency they would be doing the same so you need to be sure to protect yourself and your full house.

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CVs and References

First things first, you must thoroughly check the CV of the person you want to hire and their references.
Check the following;
- How long have they stayed in previous positions
- Most relevant experience for your available position
- References, ensure you contact them. It would be unsafe to invite someone into your home before conducting your own background check.

When conducting checks on the candidate’s references, ensure you are speaking to the real person; make a phone call, it is much more reliable. Of course not all references are job related however the below questions are some of the most important in any regard. Keep in mind it is dependant on the job you are hiring for, if you are hiring a cleaner you want to ask about the quality of their work and if it is a live in nanny you want to know that they will be able to successfully live with you. Remembering also you will learn a lot from the interview process with the candidate yourself.

Reference check must asks;
- How long did they work for you for and in what capacity?
- How would you best describe him/her?
- Would you consider him/her punctual and reliable?
- Do you feel *JOB DESCRIPTION* would suit him/her, are they capable of this?

   


Official background check:
Next you want to check their criminal record status. All people working with children or in the presence of children at any time must hold a current and clear police check, blue card or working with children's check. Each state is different in this regard, simply ask the person for their card number or certificate/notice number and look it up online to ensure it is still valid. You should also keep a copy of this for your own records. If this expires while the person is still working with you, they must renew and provide you with the details again. Remind them if necessary, it is unsafe not to have this up to date. It costs anywhere between $30-$80 depending on state and checks required.
Queensland go by the Blue card system and the remainder of our states follow the Working with children system (for easy googling of forms).
*Note if the person you are hiring has lived in another state for a long period of time ensure you see clearance in both states - a national police check can help clear this up. They will need a valid 'card' for the state they are not working in and a police check nationwide.




First Aid and CPR
This is a non negotiable when working with or in the presence of children. If the applicant has not completed their first aid and you want them to have this, suggest to them to use an ambulance service such as St John's, the Red Cross or Australia Wide First Aid for a range of course options. It is also helpful for parents to stay up to date with the latest in CPR in the case of an emergency. This usually costs $60-$190 for a full course and refreshers courses can be less. CPR should be renewed yearly and first aid every 3 years, ask the instructor for details as the regulations are subject to change.

Qualifications and other certificates
Some candidates will have qualifications and some may not, in that case they may have completed some short course or learnt from another platform so be aware to ask about this. Collect a copy of anything you wish to have on hand, for example if you have a child with anaphylaxis you may want to keep a copy of their certificate of training completed in relation to this.



Your children and their needs
Every child is different and every family has different rules. It is important to be as clear as possible to someone coming into your home whether it be to clean, to care for your children or to tutor them. Allergies and personal preferences are the first big items to disclose, specifically religious beliefs or practices that you would require the candidate to work with. Anything that may be detrimental to the partnership, or determine whether or not someone is comfortable working for you, needs to be discussed upfront. After this outline things such as safety, routine, do's and don’ts, discipline etc.



Work cover and public liability
Both parties need to look into insurance for in-home work. You need to be covered for anything that happens to them while in your home and if they are working with your children they need to be covered if anything was to happen to your children while in their care. There are multiple companies that provide nanny insurance such as Nanny Sure, an Australian based company - www.nannysure.com.au (for public liability)
See www.workcover.com.au for information on all states.
Queensland specific for cleaners and more - CANSTAR  OR  Worksafe

Car: Insurance and Licence
If you need the candidate to drive your children whether it be in their car or your car you need to ensure both cars are full comprehensively insured for the drivers, particularly if the new driver is under 25. Secondly you need to be aware of the driver’s licence status. Find out what type of licence they have and how many points they have accrued and take a copy of their licence for proof of identity. Thirdly check the car they have is safe for children (wheels, airbags etc) including having a road worthy and registration. If you are not comfortable with any of these circumstances I suggest providing a car to be used during work hours or find an alternative form of transport. If the candidate is using their own car they need to be compensated for this and keep a log book to record kms used during work hours.

Pay and benefits
Paying your employees can be tricky when it is an in home arrangement. The most common way for this to occur is that the candidate for whichever job in your home has an ABN (Australian Business Number) and you can pay them direct. They will then of course be responsible for taxes, holidays, sick days and super. Other options are to use a payroll agency which will run the show including tax and super. However if you choose to set this up just be aware that you need to discuss this in detail to ensure everyone is covered for all aspects of pay and benefits. Any allowances and benefits also need to be discussed in detail such as car, fuel and spending money.
*Note*: If you are going to pay them effectively as a contractor with an ABN the pay needs to reflect a casual hourly rate to ensure the candidate is still left with the award hourly rate at a minimum after covering super, tax etc. Super should always be paid separate and be stated in a pay slip regardless of the arrangement.
Check out www.domesticpayroll.com.au for tips, award rates and nanny tax services.

Contracts and confidentiality
A contract protects both parties so ensure you put one in place before the first day of official employment. Below is a list of some items that need to be covered in this process;
- Start date
- Length of contract
- Hours per week
- Rate of pay
- Pay period
- Method of pay
- Extra pay/over time and holiday entitlements (sick pay included)
- Allowances and benefit
- Spending money or kitty
- Car use
- Super (9.25% legally)
- Number of children if any, duties, requirements etc
- Confidentiality
- Notice period
- Ground for termination
- Trial period
- Location of workplace
- Social media policy/ images of children or home
- Contract and performance review schedule

We hope this helps you out in your search for suitable, and safe, help for your full house. If you have any queries or thoughts or stories to share, please leave us comment below, or send us an email. We love to hear from you!



C x

Friday, 29 July 2016

Time is all they need... (it's been one of those days)



I've had a week of days that I don't like my kids all that much but I love them anyway. The days we all know too well; that start great.. get a little shall I say, horrible in the middle, and end with cuddles and gorgeous sleeping children. So this week I tried out some new tactics to settle down the horrible middle we all hate so much... here is how I went.

Ignore them: Worked well until I was told my one of the builders in the house (note constant renovations and 17 builders roaming around) I should really pick him up and give him a cuddle now. Guilt rushed over me and I said "sorry baby, I love you but can you please stop winging now, its slowly killing me"... he hit me in the face and laughed it off. FAIL

Distract them with toys: Once they had realised what I was doing when creeping away for a coffee they started throwing toys at each other... toys were a fail.

Feed them: Great until the food ran out and I wasn't going to over feed them!

Take them out of the house: Surely fresh air will work a treat! All went very well... the park became my new hero and I thought if anything ever happened to this park I would be distraught. On the way back we needed to pick up some milk... I should have known better. All went down hill quicker than they ate their snacks! Home we go.

Match them: At one point in this day the noise was so loud I thought how in the world can I calm this down. And then I thought how about I just join them. So I did ... Terrible I know but it was soothing. That was until they wanted to beat me instead!

So I gave in, it was a day for cuddles, love and time together. Sometimes there is no amount of distracting you can do that surpasses the need for YOU. Makes for a good story and a strong heart at the end of the day.

For my nanny children,
C x

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Monday, 25 July 2016

Kids say the darndest things (and I wrote some of them down - #2)






Hey there lovelies! The other day Chan shared some of the adorable and hilarious things she's heard from that funny bunch she spends her days with, and it seems you all enjoyed it! I promised to share some of my own, which is easy as I am in the habit of writing down anything that I don't want to forget my boy saying. It all goes too fast, and as much as I believe I will remember it at the time, lets face it; by bedtime I can barely remember what I ate for breakfast that day so I don't like to take my chances... a backup is a good idea...

The things that come out of that tiny little loud mouth melt my heart and crack me up, DAILY. Here are a few...





While playing with his toy police motorbike on us and the couch. 
"Shhh Daddy" and sweetly brushes his Dad's eyes closed so he "sleeps". 
Then runs bike over his face, making a loud siren noise "NEENAWNEENAW! ... AWAKE!" 


"Oh no, I got crumbles"..... Crumbs 


Him - "I love Marnie and Pa. I love you too." 
Me  - "I love you too, you're my little man."
Him - "I not a man. I a boy."


Talking about our one day veggie patch...
Me - "I think we'll grow some carrots" 
Him - "Carrots. Or some spaghetti!"


'Breastfeeding' his favourite toy...
"I feeding him because he's hungry. This (*points*) one's pasta and this one's milk!" 


"Plants" -  Pants 
"Putanas" - Sultanas (apologies to any Italians...)
"Oviler"  -  Oliver




Heading for my Aunty's place, hopefully for a swim, but he said we can't swim because "it's totally cold out there".


Not wanting to sleep in his room
"I don't like my bedroom. Take it to the bedroom shop"


Coming home from shopping 
"I've been gone ages! I've been gone FIVE minutes!!"


Trying to teach him about mistakes. "I make lots of mustaches" 

"I doing hair bands!" ... Handstands




If you have some hilarious cuteness of your own to share we'd love to hear it!
H x

Thursday, 21 July 2016

Board Game Chores (a DIY with a bit of bribery)


The kids start getting older, are more capable and can understand contributing to their home... but how can we convince them to help. First thing that comes to mind is to tell them to, just make them. We all know that ends in arguments and nagging, two things I'm sure you aren't a fan of.

A little while ago I decided to test out a new 'chore chart' idea that has been floating around the world of parental tips and tricks (of course we added our own flare). It went quite well, considering these bunnies hadn't really had to do much before this exercise, mainly because I was terrible on reminding them and following through myself. This can be tricky if your children are of different ages. Be aware that you will need to customise the chores and amount given to each child so that it is fair and age appropriate. I found this way of sorting out chores to be less effort for me. I don't have to chase up anything... they just know that if they do it, they get their reward/s.  

What you will need:
Paint or coloured pens (choose the amount of colours depending on number of children)
Large paddle pop sticks
2 jars to hold the sticks



Method:
Decide on the chores you want to give your children to do. How many for each child and then do the same for the rewards.
We did the following;
13 Year old 3 chores and 2 rewards
8 Year old - 2 chores and 1 reward
3 Year old - 1 chore and 1 reward

Note: The key is to make the rewards their own, let them decide what they want for a reward and give them a little bit of say over the chores in their pot to help push them along. Also make sure you have plenty of 'free for you' rewards. Make it as fun as possible! See below for some of our 'board game' rewards we came up with;

- Get out of one chore next week
- 30 mins extra TV
- 15 mins extra xbox
- Chore swap
- Double your rewards



Paint one end of the stick in the colour relating to that child and write the chore/reward on the other end. Make sure you don't write the chore/reward too far up the stick or you will find yourself in a pickle.

Place rewards in one pot/jar and the chores in another, with the coloured end of the stick sitting up so they know which one is theirs to pull out.

Before you return the sticks from the current week have them choose the new ones so that the chores and rewards aren't the same every week.

Each week sit down together talk about the week before, then pick out your chores and reward/s. Each child is to keep them in their rooms in their own pot or place in eye's view.

I have always found that following through can be hard, this exercise took the hard work out of the chore debate in our house. They believe I will follow through on the reward and I knew they wanted it. Was almost a board game for chores! Anything that works I say!

Enjoy! And if you do create your own version or have any great ideas of your own, be sure to let us know below! (or you can always join the conversation on Instagram or Facebook!).


C x

Friday, 15 July 2016

Kids say the darndest things (and I wrote some of them down - #1)



The list of funny, honest, terrible, misunderstood, loving things that children have said in my presence over the years is endless. At the end of a 12 hour day with my little munchkins I am exhausted beyond reason - and I am completely full of love and stories to go with it. My favourite thing about working with children is their ability to shock me. The things that they come out with and learn everyday is astounding. Let's just say my days are filled with laughter, frustration, repetition and a serious amount of fun!




I know how much joy the things they say bring me, so I thought I should share a few little stories, misunderstood words and funny one-liners from those who do it best;

Misunderstood words:
Fiveteen - Fifteen
Elevo - Eleven
John Sniff - John Smith from pocohontas
Honk - Hulk
Cheese Louise - Geez Louise
Duck Duck Juice - Duck Duck Goose
Underdorm - Thunderstorm
Flavourite - Favourite
Bounce-a-line - Trampoline
Basgetthi - Spaghetti
Punkuter - Computer


One-Liners that I'll never forget:
I can't even wait
It’s going to take for a long time
I think it in my brain
I 'magiced' it away
I love you too much
You're driving me nuts
Hi Sweet cheeks
I love you to the moon and the stars and the trees and the dinosaurs
Oh don't worry


Love: 3 year old little man
C: I love you
S: I know you do!
C: Oh and you don't love me?
S: I do love you
C: You just don't want to say it?
S: I don't need to say it, you know I love you, it's in my brain.

Excuses : 4 Year old monkey
C: No eating that in on the carpet... only on the timber ok.
S: Yeah of course
........... 2 mins later
C: What is that on the carpet?
S: *shrug*
C: How did that happen?
S: It jumped out of my hand and stuck to the floor, it was so crazy.
C: Oh yeah…
S: Crazy, what the heck!




I could go on forever and I am sure before I actually manage to post this I will have many more to share. I hope you all got a little chuckle out of them... they sure keep me going each day in my crazy job.


C x

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